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This is a subject I’ve wanted to write about for quite some time. I’m in a somewhat unique position in that on a wheelchair-based PUA, but I’d like to say that my position is not totally unique, thank God! Like I said I’ve wanted to write on this subject for a while, but I recently received an extra bit of inspiration when I was talking to a friend of mine, who just so happens to also be in a wheelchair. He was telling me that he only knows one girl, and that their best friends and have been for a while. That got me to thinking, I’ve been there more than once, and I learned a lot from it. So, I decided to give it a shot and give the other aspiring gimp PUAs some advice.

1. The first thing you should know is that your wheelchair does not define who you are. You are not the same entity as your wheelchair. You are a person in a wheelchair, not a person AND a wheelchair.

2. We can get away with saying and doing things that would likely get other guys blown out. Such as looking at her ass or breasts, then using it as an excuse for her to meet your eye level rather than craning your neck to meet her eyes.

3. Bump into her, it will be ok; most people are programmed to be polite to disabled people.

4. You are by nature of the chair, nonthreatening… USE IT!

Being in a chair can be an asset, for one it makes us more observant (hopefully), due to having to spot potential dangers our able bodied counterparts do not. And for Christ sakes, do not be afraid to talk about sex! Most guys who are disabled are scared or ashamed to, don’t be, people will find it refreshing.

That’s about it for now, but don’t worry, this is part of an upcoming series on the subject. There will also be a ton of great stuff for y’all two legged non-metallic folk too. Stay Tuned! I just wanted to give my fellow rolling compadres some essential things to consider.

In the community, there a people we call “naturals.” A natural is a guy who is naturally good with women. Now a lot of guys think a natural is a guy who is just born with it, or that the all powerful god of social skills blessed them with some great magic or something. I was one of those guys left in awe by these supposed Naturals. It was like they could feel the Force and I couldn’t. That was until one day…
Me: “Dude, see that guy hitting on that chick? That’s so fucking cheesy! How the hell is a douche like him getting a girl like her!?”
Friend: “Dude that WAS you in high school.”
After my friend blew past my angry bullshit façade, and threw that in my face, the reality hit me. At the same time, a very important question rose to the top like a corpse from the bottom of a murky lake, once a natural, are you always a natural? Or can that change? I’ll share with you my personal story and you can decide.
It started when I was 11, I had just started middle school and I had my first girlfriend, it was from her and I fumbling about that I become adept at the arts of make out, and oral, as we were together two years, and it was from her I learned that if I was honest from the get go, I could have an open relationship, and I dated two girls in tandem. During high school, I had a total of twenty girlfriends, and that final one would prove most detrimental.
I met her during my senior year; I had dated her friends Lisa and Savay, which I probably didn’t spell correctly. After things ended with her two friends, she began pursuing me. We were together for a while, and we decided to get engaged. I was totally and completely in love, she left the state to further her career in modeling, returned two years later, took my virginity and left me. I spent a very long 5 year AFC period, though I had a couple sporadic friends with benefits situations, I felt as though I was terrible with woman, and for the first time, the guy who was never alone, had ended up alone.
You now know what has led me down this path, and why I started my social dynamics. But my question is then, did I really need it? If we were once Naturals, then why not just go back to it? Can we? Do we even consciously know what we did to be successful? I’d love to hear what you guys think? I’d love to hear what you think.

Welcome to the SD card. This is my humble attempt to share what I learn about the world of social dynamics as I learn it. I’ll try to stay away from theoretical discussion, as I understand that it helps very little in the field, however I will post relevant thoughts from time to time. My goal is to chronicle what I learn for those who may learn from it. Any routines that I post on this blog henceforth have either been field tested by myself, a close friend, or a fellow PUA somewhere in Internet land. With introductions out of the way, I will now share with you a personal routine of mine. It’s a cold reading routine that I’ve developed myself in this field tested several times, I hope you all enjoy!

PUA:(take her hand gently into yours) a friend of mine used to work as a psychic, and now he just does readings for people on the side, and he told me that throughout all his experience he believed that you could see into someone’s soul just by looking into their eyes. Now, I don’t know about all that but he did teach me a lot about what you could tell of someone’s character just by looking at their eyes.

HB: really? What do my eyes say about me?

Guide to eye colors:

Brown: practicality, down-to-earth, laid-back, sensitive, caring

Green: sensitive, compassionate, caring… the most important thing to work into this eyecolor is that people with green eyes have a tendency to need to help their friends six the problems they have in their lives.

Blue: calm, energetic, people with blue eyes often hear that it’s like they can see into another soul, I call that the piercing eye effect.

Hazel: a combination of the characteristics of blue and green.

Now please bear in mind that this routine isn’t totally fleshed out and that it’s still very much a work in progress, and a lot of what I do when I do cold reading comes from experience. Some important things about cold reading are:

1. Build a basic profile based on clothes, posture and grooming habits.

2. Pay attention to feedback. Watch your client’s body language for indications as to whether or not you got a hit or miss

3. When you whittle the eyecolor guide down to your own list of characteristics, which I strongly encourage, please remember that when you read your HB don’t just list off a bunch of characteristics; instead, couch them as insightful sounding truisms that show an understanding of her character. I hope that with time and practice it serves you well.