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This is a subject I’ve wanted to write about for quite some time. I’m in a somewhat unique position in that on a wheelchair-based PUA, but I’d like to say that my position is not totally unique, thank God! Like I said I’ve wanted to write on this subject for a while, but I recently received an extra bit of inspiration when I was talking to a friend of mine, who just so happens to also be in a wheelchair. He was telling me that he only knows one girl, and that their best friends and have been for a while. That got me to thinking, I’ve been there more than once, and I learned a lot from it. So, I decided to give it a shot and give the other aspiring gimp PUAs some advice.

1. The first thing you should know is that your wheelchair does not define who you are. You are not the same entity as your wheelchair. You are a person in a wheelchair, not a person AND a wheelchair.

2. We can get away with saying and doing things that would likely get other guys blown out. Such as looking at her ass or breasts, then using it as an excuse for her to meet your eye level rather than craning your neck to meet her eyes.

3. Bump into her, it will be ok; most people are programmed to be polite to disabled people.

4. You are by nature of the chair, nonthreatening… USE IT!

Being in a chair can be an asset, for one it makes us more observant (hopefully), due to having to spot potential dangers our able bodied counterparts do not. And for Christ sakes, do not be afraid to talk about sex! Most guys who are disabled are scared or ashamed to, don’t be, people will find it refreshing.

That’s about it for now, but don’t worry, this is part of an upcoming series on the subject. There will also be a ton of great stuff for y’all two legged non-metallic folk too. Stay Tuned! I just wanted to give my fellow rolling compadres some essential things to consider.

.Hey all, Captain Gimpy here!

I’m sorry it’s been so long since my last entry, but Captain Gimpy has got to find work, and it’s been rather busy trying to drum up clients lately. I know, I know, I’ve been taking a long time to write in this blog, but I promise more content will be coming more frequently, so just stick with me. First off, I’d like to thank you all for such positive responses to what I’ve been writing.

Now on to the meat of the blog! A couple of weeks back, the folks at PUA Experts had a call with Mr. M. who, if I remember correctly, is the director of Love Systems Europe. It was an awesome call! Lots of insightful advice, this man really knows his shit, and he’s reached a point in his life where he can look back and share it all with us. So, Mr. M. if you happen to read this blog, Thank you very much.

There were two questions asked during that call that seemed to stump the crew… well, not so much stump, as totally surprise. One of them was asked by a gentleman from South America, who said that the PUA community was not very large in his country. Because it was so rare, he has been getting a lot of media attention, and he wanted to know if it was good or bad as well as how to avoid any negative effects. I have to say, this had the PUA experts crew laughing their collective asses off, including their gracious guest. My response, I was laughing my ass off too! However, I would like to congratulate the gentleman from South America on his success. Keep doing what you’re doing bro! Soon you’ll be the South American version of Mystery, or maybe a 2.0!

The second question was asked by none other than yours truly, Captain Gimpy! It was as follows:

hey guys,
it’s good to hear you on the Internet again and I hope all is going well. The question I have to ask might cause you to think that I’m a bit mental, but here goes… a couple weeks back, a friend and I were having lunch when I spotted a girl who was having lunch with her mother. She kept staring at me, so we talked for a bit then I ended up getting her numb. She later told me she was a stripper. A couple weeks after that, I ended up making out with a girl who works as a club promoter. Now my question is, how do I get the “regular” girls, I’ve had a fair amount of success with what most people would call nines and tens out in the field, but lately I’ve been having problems getting the girls I meet every day, on campus, at bookstores, and so forth. People have told me that I come off as cocky, but I’m really fun to be around. Could it be that I’m overdoing the cocky? If so, it’s going to be an issue because it comes naturally to me, and I don’t really mean to do it I’d love to hear some perspective on this. Thanks

I have to admit; hearing that question live made me laugh so hard! I did however get a very good response. Essentially, Mr. M. told me that, it was possibly because I was focusing too much on buying temperature game, and not enough on value-based game. So what’s the difference? Well here’s my perspective on it:

Buying temperature game, is essentially stuff like negging, David DeAngelo style cocky funny routines, and using the illusion of social proof to gain acceptance enough from a woman for her to want to take you home, and have her oh so wonderful way with you. This stuff works great on strippers, models, club promoters and the like. And the reason I asked the question in the first place was because, while the girls I was meeting are extraordinarily beautiful, I tend to get the crazy ones. And I wanted to know what I could do in order to attract a more normal girl, in terms of temperament, personality, and so forth. Mr. M. suggested that I focus more on value-based game which to me essentially means that anyone who finds themselves in this type of predicament should make sure that their interactions with women not only show confidence on the outside, but also show the woman what you, as a man would bring into her life. Never underestimate the power of women’s intuition, they will inevitably find out when you’re hiding something. Anything; whether it’s jealous tendencies, a violent temperament, or making a habit of not calling your mother on Mother’s Day.

My advice, the only way to truly connect with women, is to show her that underneath all that cocky exterior, there is still a man who is protective, but not jealous, caring but not smothering, and most importantly… a man who is secure in himself, and in his relationship with her.

Mr. M, I hope I got this right, and I hope you guys enjoyed reading it as much as I did writing this. I shall see you guys again very soon.

PS. I just remembered… I never do a blog that has anything to do with PUA Experts without sharing the links to the call they have available. So, keeping the tradition you’ll find below a list of links for the calls I have access to.

http://www.puaexperts.com/AFC_Adam_Download/

http://www.puaexperts.com/Ice_Dragon_Download/

http://www.puaexperts.com/Discovery_Download/

http://www.puaexperts.com/Ryanimal_Libertine_Download/

http://www.puaexperts.com/Paladin_Download/

Ok, so it’s about 1 a.m. and I started thinking about the greatest assets of the PUA mindset.  One is the sheer number of people I’ve met since my shyness has become less of an issue, and the other?  You guessed it, the women!  What if she has a boyfriend?  Alot of times, we get women who want us because they are unhappy with their current boy toys, spouses or whatever.  I know what you might be thinking, “Dude, she wants me! End of discussion.”  Down Boy!  You can thank our PUA forefathers for leaving us this gem of a quote, “leave her better than you found her.”  Now I know we all have uges and we will mess  up, but knowing that is no justification.  Does that mean I’m saying you shouldn’t approach if you KNOW she’s involved with someone?  Hell fucking no!  Seduction is everywhere, from beer commercials to spring break, and the more you practice the better you get.

What I am saying is practice always but ask yourself: Am I leaving her better off than she was?  Look, if it’s a one time thing, be careful…  But there is one solution, an open relationship.  What’s that you say?  Isn’t that the same as cheating?  It depends on how you look at it.  If you make the argument that multiple partners is a shitty and dare I say it, sinful thing, then maybe, but here’s my criteria:

Open Relationships

1. More than one partner

2. Everone involved is at least of age

3. All people involved are in the know and are cool with it

Cheating is just a way of saying you weren’t grown up enough to have an honest conversation about polyamory.  Remember, if everone knows and it it’s cool, it’s all good.