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Once A Natural Always A natural: My Story And a slightly philosophical discussion
In the community, there a people we call “naturals.” A natural is a guy who is naturally good with women. Now a lot of guys think a natural is a guy who is just born with it, or that the all powerful god of social skills blessed them with some great magic or something. I was one of those guys left in awe by these supposed Naturals. It was like they could feel the Force and I couldn’t. That was until one day…
Me: “Dude, see that guy hitting on that chick? That’s so fucking cheesy! How the hell is a douche like him getting a girl like her!?”
Friend: “Dude that WAS you in high school.”
After my friend blew past my angry bullshit façade, and threw that in my face, the reality hit me. At the same time, a very important question rose to the top like a corpse from the bottom of a murky lake, once a natural, are you always a natural? Or can that change? I’ll share with you my personal story and you can decide.
It started when I was 11, I had just started middle school and I had my first girlfriend, it was from her and I fumbling about that I become adept at the arts of make out, and oral, as we were together two years, and it was from her I learned that if I was honest from the get go, I could have an open relationship, and I dated two girls in tandem. During high school, I had a total of twenty girlfriends, and that final one would prove most detrimental.
I met her during my senior year; I had dated her friends Lisa and Savay, which I probably didn’t spell correctly. After things ended with her two friends, she began pursuing me. We were together for a while, and we decided to get engaged. I was totally and completely in love, she left the state to further her career in modeling, returned two years later, took my virginity and left me. I spent a very long 5 year AFC period, though I had a couple sporadic friends with benefits situations, I felt as though I was terrible with woman, and for the first time, the guy who was never alone, had ended up alone.
You now know what has led me down this path, and why I started my social dynamics. But my question is then, did I really need it? If we were once Naturals, then why not just go back to it? Can we? Do we even consciously know what we did to be successful? I’d love to hear what you guys think? I’d love to hear what you think.
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